Just Say No
I thought I'd take a minute to reflect on 2015, quite possibly the year featuring the most chaotic transitions and meltdowns, but if you've read my most recent post, you already know this.
Something else that happened in 2015 was that I finally grew a pair and learned to say "no." I'm not talking about drugs, but please, say no to those, too. I'm talking about simple things like girls trips, lunches, dinners, group chats (is it possible to make these stop happening for infinity and beyond?), etc. I decided if I didn't want to spend my time or money on a person or event, that was my decision and it was okay to make that decision. I'm sure the chaos I was surfing through had a lot to do with these decisions, but it really just helped me clean house in life.
I realized I seemingly viewed marriage a little different than a lot of individuals I was encountering. I love my husband, spending time with him and building a life together. I knew very well when we exchanged vows that it was no longer just about what April wanted to do. I signed up for this, willingly! If you didn't know, I didn't date, like ever. Like, I think Jon was maybe the first person I dated. I wasn't mad about this, I had fun in college, I've always had friends, but dating just never crossed my path...until 12/31/2010. I never second guessed where Jon and I were headed. I just knew [insert eye roll for cliche verbiage]. The older I'm getting the more I'm understanding my brain. I enjoy being in close quarters with individuals who who have similar views and eating habits, because no, I don't want a salad with dressing on the side, I want a pizza with a cannoli on the side. Sue me. JK, don't. I'm a teacher.
So, 2016 has it made in the shade. 2015 made all the tough decisions and difficult transitions. 2016 just gets to keep the ball rolling. I literally want nothing major happening this year. I just want to work, go to grad school and be married. Plus, I'll want some beers, home projects and friend time. And I do need to lose a few 40 pounds, but pizza is having attachment issues.
Was your 2015 productive like mine? Maybe your 2016 will be? Whatever your year ahead looks like, you do you. Say yes if you want, say no if you'd rather. And cry, it's okay to cry. But laugh a lot, too. And have a drink.
Happy New Year!
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